How to Stay Positive Around Negative People
When we’re surrounded by negative people, it can be very easy to fall into a downward spiral of negativity. Sometimes we may even feel we need to succumb to their level.
We’ve become conditioned to complain, it’s easy to do so – even at the smallest things or inconveniences. We’re drawn into a cultural norm of complaining over practicing positivity, saying we’re ugly over giving compliments to ourselves, and gossiping over being reserved.
Yet, a woman filled with love at her core so often finds that the focus of negativity ultimately drains and diminishes her life force. This feeling may start off as a subtle feeling that something doesn’t feel right.
It may seem easier to ‘fit in’ with the gossip environment at work, or to complain rather than focus on all the good things in life.
This feeling may appear exhausting and draining. These signals are invitations for a woman to delve into her deeper self – allowing her to re-align her life with the true rhythms of her soul.
Being in charge of how you feel
When delving into herself, she must remember: she is in charge of how she feels. She must become aware that she is the one deciding to let the negative people have an affect on her. And, by allowing this effect, she is giving her power away.
Removing yourself from negative conversations
In my experience, indulging in gossip (particularly at work) never leads to anything good. I’ve found that when I would judge or gossip, it was a reflection of how I felt about myself.
If working in an environment with several co workers, I’ve found it useful to only speak to people who tend to be negative or gossip frequently only when it is work related. As we slowly begin to remove or cut back the negative people and refrain from gossiping – it allows inner growth and builds a healthier mindset.
I also recommend trying to not get involved with someone who has a reputation for causing drama. This often leads to us getting pulled into situations we wish we never knew about or didn’t wish to get involved in.
Spread the Positivity
In my past experiences, I’ve often found that spreading positivity leads to helping others stay positive. I have a particular instance where this helped me in the workspace.
There was a period at a job I worked where everyday had very annoying obstacles. Things were constantly changing, there was no communication and it filled everyone with frustrations that we all couldn’t help but complain to one another.
One of my co-workers went up to me one day and suggested that instead of staying negative and making the shift miserable, that instead we choose three things maximum to complain about throughout the day.
I hadn’t realized how much I had actually been complaining until I became more aware of my words. This method helped me practice self-discipline by slowly, but steadily practicing the awareness of my thoughts at work.
As I became more conscious, I was able to decrease my complaining – while also encouraging others to accept the same challenge. And, through this practice – the negativity decreased in the workspace.
